I am Regina 

I am 27 years, am a mother and a lesbian living in Kakuma Refugee Camp in Kenya. I have two children; a boy of 7 years and a girl of 6 years, plus the one I lost here in the camp. I was born in Mukono District, Uganda.

I completed my primary level when I was 13 years old ,when I reached secondary school ,I started changing while still in my early adolescent life I felt a strong attraction toward women .I met Hellen she was pretty and a felt attracted to her immediately .she had just joined my school and she was my classmate in senior two .


Me and Hellen we were both in boarding section we woul hangout together all the time ,I noticed that she did not have a boyfriend so one day I asked her why she did not have a boy friend she said that she was not interested in boys when I pushed on asking why ,she confessed that she was a lasebian and that She was interested in me ,I was so happy becouse I wanted her but I was scared of how she would react if I told her of my love for her .I had realized already that I was a lasebian .


When i turned 15 years ,any how I started a hot romantic sexual relationship with Hellen ,I enjoyed quite and wonderful relationship with Hellen all through my secondary school ,when I completed my high school ,I joined my two years course in nursing but all through with Hellen ,my dad was not so reach ,he was hoping that after studies I will get married so that he get some money to change his situation in life .He started complaining that am spending my time with my fellow women instead of finding a rich man .


When I heard those words I was scared ,what i didn't know is that Helen's mom had found out that Hellen and I were lasebians .she was very angry that she came home and attacked my dad that his daughter ( me )had spoiled Hellen .my dad was very embarrassed and more angry . Surprisingly my dad asked me in a low tone : my daughter are you really a lasebian , I decided to tell him the truth because I had hidden it from him for so long ,when he heard my answer he got up and walked away .


After one week in June 2014 my day brought a man and he told me that he was marrying me off to the man and that there was nothing to discuss ,me and my mom cried but dad would not change his mind ,the man took me to his home and told me that he had paid my dad alot of money ,I found it difficult to have sex with him ,he would end up raping me and beating me ,Hellen would visit me and we cry together ,in that forced marriage I got three children .


One day the man was not around and I took my kids to my aunt's place in Kampala ,I called Hellen for outing and she came ,when back home we just entered and forgot to close the door ,we were in sitting room having romantic times and the neighbor just opened the opened the door without knocking ,when 


She saw us she used a louder voice to make am alarm to all the people around I had them calling the police , they started stoning us ,hmm we jumped and I ran using the behind door ,and Hellen was beaten seriously ,I really don't know if she survived ,?!


I got a bodaboda to Kampala and picked up my kids to Kenya bus ,Kenya it's near Uganda ,i reached Nairobi in a small hotel where I spent the night I tried to request for some help in that small hotel and they directed me to UNHCR , Unhcr transported me to kakuma and they told me they will fullfill everything,i have suffered like an animal in this land , UNHCR haven't haven't helped me ,when I tried to seek for protection on there compound ,I was beaten and teargassed ,I lost a baby due to the teargas and there negligence .it's in 



After beatings we were dumped by the police in this horrible place called block 13 kakuma refugee camp,I don't have my rights as a person ,I can't move ,I can't associate with other refugees ,my kids can't go to school ,am a nurse but they denied me a job ,when getting water am always the last that they don't want there jerrycans to be next to mine ,our kids do have night mares ,some of we us have run mad ,some of us have developed disease due to the situation we are in , its all about my sexual orientation and identity .


I need each voice and every support for the rest my  future and to my kids thanks 


#freeblock13kakuma



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